For some people anger is not a problem; they get angry, sort it out relatively quickly and then return to their normal state. Anger becomes problematic when it is too easily triggered or too prolonged, and then it impacts on concentration, mood, relationships, self-esteem, work and social life, which can result in aggression or violence.
For some people dealing with angry feelings, and their possible consequences, is more of a problem than the situation that caused them, so they try to suppress the anger.
Due to this suppression, they may feel highly stressed, which over time can cause health problems, depression or may lead to unhealthy behaviours such as self-harm, alcohol or substance misuse.
For a minority of people, anger is present almost all the time, constantly re-enforced by their negative interpretation of the things that happen to them, and is always just beneath the surface ready to explode. Because of this, they very easily get themselves into conflict situations, whichs continues to reinforce their negative view. Angry feelings are not the problem, but what you do about them, and how you express them can be.
Reading this, you may begin to recognise aspects that are relevant to your present situation, or to a situation into which you fear you may be slipping. Please contact me
as it usually it helps to talk things over with someone neutral in order to disentangle your thoughts, feelings and actions.